I love Bdays!

So MM bday party was yesterday what an incredible feeling that was. I can not believe how great it is to see her growing up. To know that it may not always be the "easy" thing but I think she is getting a more stable, loving and incredible childhood than most.
Then MH took me out for a night that made me feel like a princess....We went and saw the movie RED EYE, it was ok but the shortest movie I think I have ever seen. Drove around and looked at houses and then had dinner at the melting pot.....We had the largest drink I have ever seen.
It was somewhat strange I am noticing more and more quiet time between us....I am concentrating REALLY hard on not overanalyzing things but ultimately I do worry we have such a great relationship and I do not want to miss any signs that mean we are heading down the wrong path.
We had a small argument last night about xbox I was hurt by the fact that he seemed not to take my opinion into account that we spent more on one toy for Justin than we spent on either girl for their bday presents.
How do I balance being me and letting my very opinionated self come out while not alienating him? He is so loving and with him being go so much I would like to ensure that his time home is representative of home I feel about him and our family.....ok off for now :-)